勇気を出してあなたの体験談を私たちに話してくださりありがとうございます。あなたの状況の痛みと複雑さはよくわかります。あなたは、幼少期のトラウマが子供時代の行動にどのような影響を与えたかを認識し、同時に自分の行動が他人に与えた影響も認めるという素晴らしい洞察力を示しています。
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Kingdom](/answer/between-ages-4-6-i-was-sexually-harmed-by-a-trusted-cousin-when-i-tried-to-tell-both-mothers-i-was-dismissed-later-living-with-other-cousins-at-my-grandmothers-i-began-initiating-sexual-activities-with-them-not-understanding-it-wasnt-normal-because-of-my-own-experiences-though-adults-sometimes-caught-us-no-one-addressed-it-i-stopped-around-age-10-11-because-i-felt-guilty-now-one-cousin-is-telling-others-i-introduced-these-behaviors-and-some-view-me-as-a-predator-i-want-to-explain-that-my-actions-came-from-my-own-trauma-and-lack-of-understanding-and-to-apologize-but-they-wont-talk-to-me-other-family-members-avoid-the-topic-entirely-im-devastated-because-im-not-who-they-think-i-am-and-while-i-understand-the-hurt-i-may-have-caused-i-just-want-a-chance-to-explain-and-apologize-what-can-i-do-397?country=gb)[\[Image: Uruguay\]Uruguay](/answer/between-ages-4-6-i-was-sexually-harmed-by-a-trusted-cousin-when-i-tried-to-tell-both-mothers-i-was-dismissed-later-living-with-other-cousins-at-my-grandmothers-i-began-initiating-sexual-activities-with-them-not-understanding-it-wasnt-normal-because-of-my-own-experiences-though-adults-sometimes-caught-us-no-one-addressed-it-i-stopped-around-age-10-11-because-i-felt-guilty-now-one-cousin-is-telling-others-i-introduced-these-behaviors-and-some-view-me-as-a-predator-i-want-to-explain-that-my-actions-came-from-my-own-trauma-and-lack-of-understanding-and-to-apologize-but-they-wont-talk-to-me-other-family-members-avoid-the-topic-entirely-im-devastated-because-im-not-who-they-think-i-am-and-while-i-understand-the-hurt-i-may-have-caused-i-just-want-a-chance-to-explain-and-apologize-what-can-i-do-397?country=uy)[\[Image: 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[ 私たちについて ](https://www.ourwave.org/ja/who-we-are) ノースカロライナ州ローリーで を込めて制作されました。 詳細は私たちの[コミュニティガイドライン](https://www.ourwave.org/ja/community-guidelines)、[個人情報保護方針](https://www.ourwave.org/ja/privacy)、および[利用規約](https://www.ourwave.org/ja/terms)をお読みください。 フィードバックはありますか？ぜひお送りください 🇺🇸 # 4～6歳のとき、信頼していたいとこから性的被害を受けました。両方の母親に話そうとしましたが、相手にされませんでした。その後、祖母の家で他のいとこと一緒に暮らしていたとき、私は彼らと性行為を始めました。自分の経験から、それが普通ではないことを理解していませんでした。大人に見つかることもありましたが、誰も対処しませんでした。罪悪感を感じたので、10～11歳くらいでやめました。 今、いとこの1人が、私がこれらの行動を広めたと他の人に話し、私を捕食者と見なす人もいます。自分の行動は自分のトラウマと理解不足から生じたものだと説明し、謝罪したいのですが、彼らは私と話してくれません。他の家族は、その話題を完全に避けています。私は彼らが思っているような人間ではないので、打ちのめされています。私が引き起こしたかもしれない傷は理解していますが、説明して謝罪する機会が欲しいだけです。私に何ができるでしょうか? \[Image: Dr. Laura\] **Dr. Laura**による回答 博士号精神保健看護師＆性暴力看護師認定者 トピックス:[幼少期の経験を理解する](/ja/learn?tags=making-sense-of-childhood-experiences) 勇気を出してあなたの体験談を私たちに話してくださりありがとうございます。あなたの状況の痛みと複雑さはよくわかります。あなたは、幼少期のトラウマが子供時代の行動にどのような影響を与えたかを認識し、同時に自分の行動が他人に与えた影響も認めるという素晴らしい洞察力を示しています。 信頼できる大人に伝えようとして無視されたときのように、幼少期のトラウマが放置されると、関係者全員に影響を及ぼす波紋が広がります。子供は、トラウマを他の方法で処理するための言葉やサポートがない場合、特に、行動で自分の経験を表現することがよくあります。10～11歳でこれらの行動が間違っていると感じ、それをやめようと決心したことは、子供としては驚くべき感情的認識を示しています。 大人になった今、関係者全員がそれぞれのやり方とペースでこれらの経験を処理しています。説明して謝罪したいというあなたの気持ちは成長と責任感から来ていますが、いとこたちが自分のトラウマを処理するために距離を置く必要があるかもしれないことを認識することが重要です。いとこたちの現在の境界線はあなたにとっては辛いものですが、彼らの回復の過程の一部であり、尊重されるべきものです。 彼らの境界を尊重しながら自分自身の癒しを始める一つの方法は、決して送らないかもしれない手紙をいとこたちに書くことです。この習慣は、起こったことに対する自分の考えや気持ちを整理し、引き起こされた被害に対する自分の理解を表現し、成長の過程を記録するのに役立ちます。自分の経験と理解の個人的なタイムラインを作成することは、幼少期の行動に影響を与えた複雑な要因を認識しながら、自分の進歩を確認するのにも役立ちます。 トラウマに精通したセラピスト、特に子供の性的トラウマや家族関係に詳しいセラピストと協力することで、重要なサポートを受けることができます。セラピストは、あなたの幼少期の経験と現在の感情の両方を処理し、家族の反応を管理するためのツールを開発し、あなた自身の痛みと他人に与えた痛みの両方を受け止める方法を見つけるのを助けてくれます。この作業は、責任感を持ちながら自己への思いやりを実践するのに役立ちます。 自分の行動が未処理のトラウマから生じたものであることを理解すると同時に、いとこたちに実際に与えた害を認めることもできます。どちらの経験も正当なものであり、認識されるに値します。今は直接のコミュニケーションは不可能ですが、償いたいという気持ちを、個人的な成長、幼少期のトラウマと癒しについての教育、そして自分自身の関係における害悪の連鎖を断ち切ることに向けることができます。 癒しは一直線ではなく、家族の癒しは特に複雑であることを忘れないでください。いとこたちが距離を置きたいからといって、あなたの成長や理解が否定されるわけではありません。同時に、幼少期のトラウマがあなたの行動にどのような影響を与えたかを理解していても、いとこたちが安全だと感じる境界線を維持する権利が損なわれるわけではありません。 このプロセスには時間がかかりますが、あなたはすでに大きな進歩を遂げています。私たちを信頼していただきありがとうございます。あなたは一人ではありません。 ランダムな質問 0 賛成票 賛成票 [ 0 コメント コメント 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Argentina\]Argentina](/answer/between-ages-4-6-i-was-sexually-harmed-by-a-trusted-cousin-when-i-tried-to-tell-both-mothers-i-was-dismissed-later-living-with-other-cousins-at-my-grandmothers-i-began-initiating-sexual-activities-with-them-not-understanding-it-wasnt-normal-because-of-my-own-experiences-though-adults-sometimes-caught-us-no-one-addressed-it-i-stopped-around-age-10-11-because-i-felt-guilty-now-one-cousin-is-telling-others-i-introduced-these-behaviors-and-some-view-me-as-a-predator-i-want-to-explain-that-my-actions-came-from-my-own-trauma-and-lack-of-understanding-and-to-apologize-but-they-wont-talk-to-me-other-family-members-avoid-the-topic-entirely-im-devastated-because-im-not-who-they-think-i-am-and-while-i-understand-the-hurt-i-may-have-caused-i-just-want-a-chance-to-explain-and-apologize-what-can-i-do-397?country=ar)[\[Image: Australia\]Australia](/answer/between-ages-4-6-i-was-sexually-harmed-by-a-trusted-cousin-when-i-tried-to-tell-both-mothers-i-was-dismissed-later-living-with-other-cousins-at-my-grandmothers-i-began-initiating-sexual-activities-with-them-not-understanding-it-wasnt-normal-because-of-my-own-experiences-though-adults-sometimes-caught-us-no-one-addressed-it-i-stopped-around-age-10-11-because-i-felt-guilty-now-one-cousin-is-telling-others-i-introduced-these-behaviors-and-some-view-me-as-a-predator-i-want-to-explain-that-my-actions-came-from-my-own-trauma-and-lack-of-understanding-and-to-apologize-but-they-wont-talk-to-me-other-family-members-avoid-the-topic-entirely-im-devastated-because-im-not-who-they-think-i-am-and-while-i-understand-the-hurt-i-may-have-caused-i-just-want-a-chance-to-explain-and-apologize-what-can-i-do-397?country=au)[\[Image: Bolivia\]Bolivia](/answer/between-ages-4-6-i-was-sexually-harmed-by-a-trusted-cousin-when-i-tried-to-tell-both-mothers-i-was-dismissed-later-living-with-other-cousins-at-my-grandmothers-i-began-initiating-sexual-activities-with-them-not-understanding-it-wasnt-normal-because-of-my-own-experiences-though-adults-sometimes-caught-us-no-one-addressed-it-i-stopped-around-age-10-11-because-i-felt-guilty-now-one-cousin-is-telling-others-i-introduced-these-behaviors-and-some-view-me-as-a-predator-i-want-to-explain-that-my-actions-came-from-my-own-trauma-and-lack-of-understanding-and-to-apologize-but-they-wont-talk-to-me-other-family-members-avoid-the-topic-entirely-im-devastated-because-im-not-who-they-think-i-am-and-while-i-understand-the-hurt-i-may-have-caused-i-just-want-a-chance-to-explain-and-apologize-what-can-i-do-397?country=bo)[\[Image: Canada\]Canada](/answer/between-ages-4-6-i-was-sexually-harmed-by-a-trusted-cousin-when-i-tried-to-tell-both-mothers-i-was-dismissed-later-living-with-other-cousins-at-my-grandmothers-i-began-initiating-sexual-activities-with-them-not-understanding-it-wasnt-normal-because-of-my-own-experiences-though-adults-sometimes-caught-us-no-one-addressed-it-i-stopped-around-age-10-11-because-i-felt-guilty-now-one-cousin-is-telling-others-i-introduced-these-behaviors-and-some-view-me-as-a-predator-i-want-to-explain-that-my-actions-came-from-my-own-trauma-and-lack-of-understanding-and-to-apologize-but-they-wont-talk-to-me-other-family-members-avoid-the-topic-entirely-im-devastated-because-im-not-who-they-think-i-am-and-while-i-understand-the-hurt-i-may-have-caused-i-just-want-a-chance-to-explain-and-apologize-what-can-i-do-397?country=ca)[\[Image: Chile\]Chile](/answer/between-ages-4-6-i-was-sexually-harmed-by-a-trusted-cousin-when-i-tried-to-tell-both-mothers-i-was-dismissed-later-living-with-other-cousins-at-my-grandmothers-i-began-initiating-sexual-activities-with-them-not-understanding-it-wasnt-normal-because-of-my-own-experiences-though-adults-sometimes-caught-us-no-one-addressed-it-i-stopped-around-age-10-11-because-i-felt-guilty-now-one-cousin-is-telling-others-i-introduced-these-behaviors-and-some-view-me-as-a-predator-i-want-to-explain-that-my-actions-came-from-my-own-trauma-and-lack-of-understanding-and-to-apologize-but-they-wont-talk-to-me-other-family-members-avoid-the-topic-entirely-im-devastated-because-im-not-who-they-think-i-am-and-while-i-understand-the-hurt-i-may-have-caused-i-just-want-a-chance-to-explain-and-apologize-what-can-i-do-397?country=cl)[\[Image: Colombia\]Colombia](/answer/between-ages-4-6-i-was-sexually-harmed-by-a-trusted-cousin-when-i-tried-to-tell-both-mothers-i-was-dismissed-later-living-with-other-cousins-at-my-grandmothers-i-began-initiating-sexual-activities-with-them-not-understanding-it-wasnt-normal-because-of-my-own-experiences-though-adults-sometimes-caught-us-no-one-addressed-it-i-stopped-around-age-10-11-because-i-felt-guilty-now-one-cousin-is-telling-others-i-introduced-these-behaviors-and-some-view-me-as-a-predator-i-want-to-explain-that-my-actions-came-from-my-own-trauma-and-lack-of-understanding-and-to-apologize-but-they-wont-talk-to-me-other-family-members-avoid-the-topic-entirely-im-devastated-because-im-not-who-they-think-i-am-and-while-i-understand-the-hurt-i-may-have-caused-i-just-want-a-chance-to-explain-and-apologize-what-can-i-do-397?country=co)[\[Image: Costa Rica\]Costa Rica](/answer/between-ages-4-6-i-was-sexually-harmed-by-a-trusted-cousin-when-i-tried-to-tell-both-mothers-i-was-dismissed-later-living-with-other-cousins-at-my-grandmothers-i-began-initiating-sexual-activities-with-them-not-understanding-it-wasnt-normal-because-of-my-own-experiences-though-adults-sometimes-caught-us-no-one-addressed-it-i-stopped-around-age-10-11-because-i-felt-guilty-now-one-cousin-is-telling-others-i-introduced-these-behaviors-and-some-view-me-as-a-predator-i-want-to-explain-that-my-actions-came-from-my-own-trauma-and-lack-of-understanding-and-to-apologize-but-they-wont-talk-to-me-other-family-members-avoid-the-topic-entirely-im-devastated-because-im-not-who-they-think-i-am-and-while-i-understand-the-hurt-i-may-have-caused-i-just-want-a-chance-to-explain-and-apologize-what-can-i-do-397?country=cr)[\[Image: Cuba\]Cuba](/answer/between-ages-4-6-i-was-sexually-harmed-by-a-trusted-cousin-when-i-tried-to-tell-both-mothers-i-was-dismissed-later-living-with-other-cousins-at-my-grandmothers-i-began-initiating-sexual-activities-with-them-not-understanding-it-wasnt-normal-because-of-my-own-experiences-though-adults-sometimes-caught-us-no-one-addressed-it-i-stopped-around-age-10-11-because-i-felt-guilty-now-one-cousin-is-telling-others-i-introduced-these-behaviors-and-some-view-me-as-a-predator-i-want-to-explain-that-my-actions-came-from-my-own-trauma-and-lack-of-understanding-and-to-apologize-but-they-wont-talk-to-me-other-family-members-avoid-the-topic-entirely-im-devastated-because-im-not-who-they-think-i-am-and-while-i-understand-the-hurt-i-may-have-caused-i-just-want-a-chance-to-explain-and-apologize-what-can-i-do-397?country=cu)[\[Image: Dominican Republic\]Dominican Republic](/answer/between-ages-4-6-i-was-sexually-harmed-by-a-trusted-cousin-when-i-tried-to-tell-both-mothers-i-was-dismissed-later-living-with-other-cousins-at-my-grandmothers-i-began-initiating-sexual-activities-with-them-not-understanding-it-wasnt-normal-because-of-my-own-experiences-though-adults-sometimes-caught-us-no-one-addressed-it-i-stopped-around-age-10-11-because-i-felt-guilty-now-one-cousin-is-telling-others-i-introduced-these-behaviors-and-some-view-me-as-a-predator-i-want-to-explain-that-my-actions-came-from-my-own-trauma-and-lack-of-understanding-and-to-apologize-but-they-wont-talk-to-me-other-family-members-avoid-the-topic-entirely-im-devastated-because-im-not-who-they-think-i-am-and-while-i-understand-the-hurt-i-may-have-caused-i-just-want-a-chance-to-explain-and-apologize-what-can-i-do-397?country=do)[\[Image: Ecuador\]Ecuador](/answer/between-ages-4-6-i-was-sexually-harmed-by-a-trusted-cousin-when-i-tried-to-tell-both-mothers-i-was-dismissed-later-living-with-other-cousins-at-my-grandmothers-i-began-initiating-sexual-activities-with-them-not-understanding-it-wasnt-normal-because-of-my-own-experiences-though-adults-sometimes-caught-us-no-one-addressed-it-i-stopped-around-age-10-11-because-i-felt-guilty-now-one-cousin-is-telling-others-i-introduced-these-behaviors-and-some-view-me-as-a-predator-i-want-to-explain-that-my-actions-came-from-my-own-trauma-and-lack-of-understanding-and-to-apologize-but-they-wont-talk-to-me-other-family-members-avoid-the-topic-entirely-im-devastated-because-im-not-who-they-think-i-am-and-while-i-understand-the-hurt-i-may-have-caused-i-just-want-a-chance-to-explain-and-apologize-what-can-i-do-397?country=ec)[\[Image: El Salvador\]El Salvador](/answer/between-ages-4-6-i-was-sexually-harmed-by-a-trusted-cousin-when-i-tried-to-tell-both-mothers-i-was-dismissed-later-living-with-other-cousins-at-my-grandmothers-i-began-initiating-sexual-activities-with-them-not-understanding-it-wasnt-normal-because-of-my-own-experiences-though-adults-sometimes-caught-us-no-one-addressed-it-i-stopped-around-age-10-11-because-i-felt-guilty-now-one-cousin-is-telling-others-i-introduced-these-behaviors-and-some-view-me-as-a-predator-i-want-to-explain-that-my-actions-came-from-my-own-trauma-and-lack-of-understanding-and-to-apologize-but-they-wont-talk-to-me-other-family-members-avoid-the-topic-entirely-im-devastated-because-im-not-who-they-think-i-am-and-while-i-understand-the-hurt-i-may-have-caused-i-just-want-a-chance-to-explain-and-apologize-what-can-i-do-397?country=sv)[\[Image: Equatorial Guinea\]Equatorial Guinea](/answer/between-ages-4-6-i-was-sexually-harmed-by-a-trusted-cousin-when-i-tried-to-tell-both-mothers-i-was-dismissed-later-living-with-other-cousins-at-my-grandmothers-i-began-initiating-sexual-activities-with-them-not-understanding-it-wasnt-normal-because-of-my-own-experiences-though-adults-sometimes-caught-us-no-one-addressed-it-i-stopped-around-age-10-11-because-i-felt-guilty-now-one-cousin-is-telling-others-i-introduced-these-behaviors-and-some-view-me-as-a-predator-i-want-to-explain-that-my-actions-came-from-my-own-trauma-and-lack-of-understanding-and-to-apologize-but-they-wont-talk-to-me-other-family-members-avoid-the-topic-entirely-im-devastated-because-im-not-who-they-think-i-am-and-while-i-understand-the-hurt-i-may-have-caused-i-just-want-a-chance-to-explain-and-apologize-what-can-i-do-397?country=gq)[\[Image: Guatemala\]Guatemala](/answer/between-ages-4-6-i-was-sexually-harmed-by-a-trusted-cousin-when-i-tried-to-tell-both-mothers-i-was-dismissed-later-living-with-other-cousins-at-my-grandmothers-i-began-initiating-sexual-activities-with-them-not-understanding-it-wasnt-normal-because-of-my-own-experiences-though-adults-sometimes-caught-us-no-one-addressed-it-i-stopped-around-age-10-11-because-i-felt-guilty-now-one-cousin-is-telling-others-i-introduced-these-behaviors-and-some-view-me-as-a-predator-i-want-to-explain-that-my-actions-came-from-my-own-trauma-and-lack-of-understanding-and-to-apologize-but-they-wont-talk-to-me-other-family-members-avoid-the-topic-entirely-im-devastated-because-im-not-who-they-think-i-am-and-while-i-understand-the-hurt-i-may-have-caused-i-just-want-a-chance-to-explain-and-apologize-what-can-i-do-397?country=gt)[\[Image: Honduras\]Honduras](/answer/between-ages-4-6-i-was-sexually-harmed-by-a-trusted-cousin-when-i-tried-to-tell-both-mothers-i-was-dismissed-later-living-with-other-cousins-at-my-grandmothers-i-began-initiating-sexual-activities-with-them-not-understanding-it-wasnt-normal-because-of-my-own-experiences-though-adults-sometimes-caught-us-no-one-addressed-it-i-stopped-around-age-10-11-because-i-felt-guilty-now-one-cousin-is-telling-others-i-introduced-these-behaviors-and-some-view-me-as-a-predator-i-want-to-explain-that-my-actions-came-from-my-own-trauma-and-lack-of-understanding-and-to-apologize-but-they-wont-talk-to-me-other-family-members-avoid-the-topic-entirely-im-devastated-because-im-not-who-they-think-i-am-and-while-i-understand-the-hurt-i-may-have-caused-i-just-want-a-chance-to-explain-and-apologize-what-can-i-do-397?country=hn)[\[Image: Ireland\]Ireland](/answer/between-ages-4-6-i-was-sexually-harmed-by-a-trusted-cousin-when-i-tried-to-tell-both-mothers-i-was-dismissed-later-living-with-other-cousins-at-my-grandmothers-i-began-initiating-sexual-activities-with-them-not-understanding-it-wasnt-normal-because-of-my-own-experiences-though-adults-sometimes-caught-us-no-one-addressed-it-i-stopped-around-age-10-11-because-i-felt-guilty-now-one-cousin-is-telling-others-i-introduced-these-behaviors-and-some-view-me-as-a-predator-i-want-to-explain-that-my-actions-came-from-my-own-trauma-and-lack-of-understanding-and-to-apologize-but-they-wont-talk-to-me-other-family-members-avoid-the-topic-entirely-im-devastated-because-im-not-who-they-think-i-am-and-while-i-understand-the-hurt-i-may-have-caused-i-just-want-a-chance-to-explain-and-apologize-what-can-i-do-397?country=ie)[\[Image: Japan\]Japan](/answer/between-ages-4-6-i-was-sexually-harmed-by-a-trusted-cousin-when-i-tried-to-tell-both-mothers-i-was-dismissed-later-living-with-other-cousins-at-my-grandmothers-i-began-initiating-sexual-activities-with-them-not-understanding-it-wasnt-normal-because-of-my-own-experiences-though-adults-sometimes-caught-us-no-one-addressed-it-i-stopped-around-age-10-11-because-i-felt-guilty-now-one-cousin-is-telling-others-i-introduced-these-behaviors-and-some-view-me-as-a-predator-i-want-to-explain-that-my-actions-came-from-my-own-trauma-and-lack-of-understanding-and-to-apologize-but-they-wont-talk-to-me-other-family-members-avoid-the-topic-entirely-im-devastated-because-im-not-who-they-think-i-am-and-while-i-understand-the-hurt-i-may-have-caused-i-just-want-a-chance-to-explain-and-apologize-what-can-i-do-397?country=jp)[\[Image: Mexico\]Mexico](/answer/between-ages-4-6-i-was-sexually-harmed-by-a-trusted-cousin-when-i-tried-to-tell-both-mothers-i-was-dismissed-later-living-with-other-cousins-at-my-grandmothers-i-began-initiating-sexual-activities-with-them-not-understanding-it-wasnt-normal-because-of-my-own-experiences-though-adults-sometimes-caught-us-no-one-addressed-it-i-stopped-around-age-10-11-because-i-felt-guilty-now-one-cousin-is-telling-others-i-introduced-these-behaviors-and-some-view-me-as-a-predator-i-want-to-explain-that-my-actions-came-from-my-own-trauma-and-lack-of-understanding-and-to-apologize-but-they-wont-talk-to-me-other-family-members-avoid-the-topic-entirely-im-devastated-because-im-not-who-they-think-i-am-and-while-i-understand-the-hurt-i-may-have-caused-i-just-want-a-chance-to-explain-and-apologize-what-can-i-do-397?country=mx)[\[Image: Nicaragua\]Nicaragua](/answer/between-ages-4-6-i-was-sexually-harmed-by-a-trusted-cousin-when-i-tried-to-tell-both-mothers-i-was-dismissed-later-living-with-other-cousins-at-my-grandmothers-i-began-initiating-sexual-activities-with-them-not-understanding-it-wasnt-normal-because-of-my-own-experiences-though-adults-sometimes-caught-us-no-one-addressed-it-i-stopped-around-age-10-11-because-i-felt-guilty-now-one-cousin-is-telling-others-i-introduced-these-behaviors-and-some-view-me-as-a-predator-i-want-to-explain-that-my-actions-came-from-my-own-trauma-and-lack-of-understanding-and-to-apologize-but-they-wont-talk-to-me-other-family-members-avoid-the-topic-entirely-im-devastated-because-im-not-who-they-think-i-am-and-while-i-understand-the-hurt-i-may-have-caused-i-just-want-a-chance-to-explain-and-apologize-what-can-i-do-397?country=ni)[\[Image: New Zealand\]New Zealand](/answer/between-ages-4-6-i-was-sexually-harmed-by-a-trusted-cousin-when-i-tried-to-tell-both-mothers-i-was-dismissed-later-living-with-other-cousins-at-my-grandmothers-i-began-initiating-sexual-activities-with-them-not-understanding-it-wasnt-normal-because-of-my-own-experiences-though-adults-sometimes-caught-us-no-one-addressed-it-i-stopped-around-age-10-11-because-i-felt-guilty-now-one-cousin-is-telling-others-i-introduced-these-behaviors-and-some-view-me-as-a-predator-i-want-to-explain-that-my-actions-came-from-my-own-trauma-and-lack-of-understanding-and-to-apologize-but-they-wont-talk-to-me-other-family-members-avoid-the-topic-entirely-im-devastated-because-im-not-who-they-think-i-am-and-while-i-understand-the-hurt-i-may-have-caused-i-just-want-a-chance-to-explain-and-apologize-what-can-i-do-397?country=nz)[\[Image: Panama\]Panama](/answer/between-ages-4-6-i-was-sexually-harmed-by-a-trusted-cousin-when-i-tried-to-tell-both-mothers-i-was-dismissed-later-living-with-other-cousins-at-my-grandmothers-i-began-initiating-sexual-activities-with-them-not-understanding-it-wasnt-normal-because-of-my-own-experiences-though-adults-sometimes-caught-us-no-one-addressed-it-i-stopped-around-age-10-11-because-i-felt-guilty-now-one-cousin-is-telling-others-i-introduced-these-behaviors-and-some-view-me-as-a-predator-i-want-to-explain-that-my-actions-came-from-my-own-trauma-and-lack-of-understanding-and-to-apologize-but-they-wont-talk-to-me-other-family-members-avoid-the-topic-entirely-im-devastated-because-im-not-who-they-think-i-am-and-while-i-understand-the-hurt-i-may-have-caused-i-just-want-a-chance-to-explain-and-apologize-what-can-i-do-397?country=pa)[\[Image: Paraguay\]Paraguay](/answer/between-ages-4-6-i-was-sexually-harmed-by-a-trusted-cousin-when-i-tried-to-tell-both-mothers-i-was-dismissed-later-living-with-other-cousins-at-my-grandmothers-i-began-initiating-sexual-activities-with-them-not-understanding-it-wasnt-normal-because-of-my-own-experiences-though-adults-sometimes-caught-us-no-one-addressed-it-i-stopped-around-age-10-11-because-i-felt-guilty-now-one-cousin-is-telling-others-i-introduced-these-behaviors-and-some-view-me-as-a-predator-i-want-to-explain-that-my-actions-came-from-my-own-trauma-and-lack-of-understanding-and-to-apologize-but-they-wont-talk-to-me-other-family-members-avoid-the-topic-entirely-im-devastated-because-im-not-who-they-think-i-am-and-while-i-understand-the-hurt-i-may-have-caused-i-just-want-a-chance-to-explain-and-apologize-what-can-i-do-397?country=py)[\[Image: Peru\]Peru](/answer/between-ages-4-6-i-was-sexually-harmed-by-a-trusted-cousin-when-i-tried-to-tell-both-mothers-i-was-dismissed-later-living-with-other-cousins-at-my-grandmothers-i-began-initiating-sexual-activities-with-them-not-understanding-it-wasnt-normal-because-of-my-own-experiences-though-adults-sometimes-caught-us-no-one-addressed-it-i-stopped-around-age-10-11-because-i-felt-guilty-now-one-cousin-is-telling-others-i-introduced-these-behaviors-and-some-view-me-as-a-predator-i-want-to-explain-that-my-actions-came-from-my-own-trauma-and-lack-of-understanding-and-to-apologize-but-they-wont-talk-to-me-other-family-members-avoid-the-topic-entirely-im-devastated-because-im-not-who-they-think-i-am-and-while-i-understand-the-hurt-i-may-have-caused-i-just-want-a-chance-to-explain-and-apologize-what-can-i-do-397?country=pe)[\[Image: Puerto Rico\]Puerto Rico](/answer/between-ages-4-6-i-was-sexually-harmed-by-a-trusted-cousin-when-i-tried-to-tell-both-mothers-i-was-dismissed-later-living-with-other-cousins-at-my-grandmothers-i-began-initiating-sexual-activities-with-them-not-understanding-it-wasnt-normal-because-of-my-own-experiences-though-adults-sometimes-caught-us-no-one-addressed-it-i-stopped-around-age-10-11-because-i-felt-guilty-now-one-cousin-is-telling-others-i-introduced-these-behaviors-and-some-view-me-as-a-predator-i-want-to-explain-that-my-actions-came-from-my-own-trauma-and-lack-of-understanding-and-to-apologize-but-they-wont-talk-to-me-other-family-members-avoid-the-topic-entirely-im-devastated-because-im-not-who-they-think-i-am-and-while-i-understand-the-hurt-i-may-have-caused-i-just-want-a-chance-to-explain-and-apologize-what-can-i-do-397?country=pr)[\[Image: Spain\]Spain](/answer/between-ages-4-6-i-was-sexually-harmed-by-a-trusted-cousin-when-i-tried-to-tell-both-mothers-i-was-dismissed-later-living-with-other-cousins-at-my-grandmothers-i-began-initiating-sexual-activities-with-them-not-understanding-it-wasnt-normal-because-of-my-own-experiences-though-adults-sometimes-caught-us-no-one-addressed-it-i-stopped-around-age-10-11-because-i-felt-guilty-now-one-cousin-is-telling-others-i-introduced-these-behaviors-and-some-view-me-as-a-predator-i-want-to-explain-that-my-actions-came-from-my-own-trauma-and-lack-of-understanding-and-to-apologize-but-they-wont-talk-to-me-other-family-members-avoid-the-topic-entirely-im-devastated-because-im-not-who-they-think-i-am-and-while-i-understand-the-hurt-i-may-have-caused-i-just-want-a-chance-to-explain-and-apologize-what-can-i-do-397?country=es)[\[Image: United Kingdom\]United 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Uruguay\]Uruguay](/answer/between-ages-4-6-i-was-sexually-harmed-by-a-trusted-cousin-when-i-tried-to-tell-both-mothers-i-was-dismissed-later-living-with-other-cousins-at-my-grandmothers-i-began-initiating-sexual-activities-with-them-not-understanding-it-wasnt-normal-because-of-my-own-experiences-though-adults-sometimes-caught-us-no-one-addressed-it-i-stopped-around-age-10-11-because-i-felt-guilty-now-one-cousin-is-telling-others-i-introduced-these-behaviors-and-some-view-me-as-a-predator-i-want-to-explain-that-my-actions-came-from-my-own-trauma-and-lack-of-understanding-and-to-apologize-but-they-wont-talk-to-me-other-family-members-avoid-the-topic-entirely-im-devastated-because-im-not-who-they-think-i-am-and-while-i-understand-the-hurt-i-may-have-caused-i-just-want-a-chance-to-explain-and-apologize-what-can-i-do-397?country=uy)[\[Image: 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