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title: 子どもの頃、私は兄から不適切な性的行為を受けました。これには、言葉によるコメント、冗談、恋愛感情の表現などが含まれま... ~ Our Wave コミュニティ
description: アドバイスを求めて私たちに連絡し、この困難な経験を共有してくださり、本当にありがとうございます。あなたの気持ちや懸念は完全に正当で理解できます。幼少期に兄から受けた不適切な性的行為は明らかに永続的な影響を残しており、友人からの一見無害な発言が過去の虐待の記憶を呼び起こすのは完全に正常なことです。...
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# 子どもの頃、私は兄から不適切な性的行為を受けました。これには、言葉によるコメント、冗談、恋愛感情の表現などが含まれます。大人になった今、私は以前ほどではありませんが、下品なユーモアを使うことがあります。友達が私のユーモアのセンスについてコメントすると、たとえ軽い気持ちであっても、過去の虐待の記憶が呼び起こされ、不快な気持ちになります。私は性的なユーモアの使用を減らそうとしていますが、トラウマ的な過去を明かさずに友達とこの件についてどう話せばいいのかわかりません。共有したくない情報を明かさずに、この状況を切り抜け、境界線を設定するにはどうしたらいいでしょうか。

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トピックス:[トラウマ後の人間関係の修復](/ja/learn/topics/navigating-relationships-after-trauma)

アドバイスを求めて私たちに連絡し、この困難な経験を共有してくださり、本当にありがとうございます。あなたの気持ちや懸念は完全に正当で理解できます。幼少期に兄から受けた不適切な性的行為は明らかに永続的な影響を残しており、友人からの一見無害な発言が過去の虐待の記憶を呼び起こすのは完全に正常なことです。

現在のユーモアのセンスと過去の経験とのつながりを認識し、それが苦痛であれば性的なユーモアの使用を減らす措置を講じていることは、大きな一歩です。しかし、友情を維持しながらこれらのトリガーに対処することは、特に過去のトラウマを打ち明けることに抵抗がある場合は、困難な場合があります。

あなたには、自分の過去をすべて説明しなくても、境界線を設定し、自分の幸福を守る権利があります。一つの方法は、単に、性的なジョークを控えようとしているので、そうしようとしている間は、友人たちにそれについてコメントしないでほしいと伝えることです。あなたは、自分の個人的な境界線について、誰かに説明する義務はありません。

気楽に話せる場合は、「私」という表現を使って、詳細に立ち入ることなく自分の気持ちを表現することもできます。たとえば、「ユーモアのセンスを指摘されると、時々不快に感じます。改善しようと努力しています。それについてはコメントしないでいただけるとありがたいです」などと言うことができます。このアプローチは、過去の経験ではなく、現在の気持ちに焦点を当てています。

覚えておいてください、回復はプロセスであり、これらの状況をどのように乗り越えるかを考えるのに時間がかかっても大丈夫です。これを乗り越えるには、忍耐強く、自分自身に思いやりを持ってください。あなたの反応はあなたのせいではありません。それはあなたが受けた虐待の結果なのです。

あなたの健康は何よりも大切です。あなたには、友人関係に心地よさを感じる権利があります。本当の友人は、たとえ全体の状況を知らなくても、あなたの境界を尊重してくれると信じてください。自分を大切にし、あなたの感情は正当なものであることを忘れないでください。あなたはこの問題に取り組み、自分の精神的健康を守る方法を探すことで、大きな強さを示しています。

信頼できる友人と自分の体験をシェアする準備ができたら、どの程度まで打ち明けるかは自分で決められるということを覚えておいてください。すべての詳細をシェアする必要はなく、また、そうすることに抵抗があるなら、「性的虐待」などの言葉を使う必要もありません。「幼い頃、家族と特定のジョークやコメントに不快感を覚えた経験があります」など、体験を簡略化して話すことから始めてもいいでしょう。または、「幼少期の体験を克服しようと努力しているのですが、そのせいで性的なジョークが苦手になることがあります」と言うこともできます。

漠然とした言い方で、起こったことの詳細よりも、今どう感じているかに焦点を当てても問題ありません。また、「過去の経験から、ユーモアのセンスに関するコメントに敏感になってしまうことがあります。改善に努めていますが、時々不快に思われるかもしれませんが、ご理解いただければ幸いです」などと言うこともできます。これは、この状況を切り抜けるのに役立つかもしれない言葉の例にすぎません。ご自由に、ご自身や状況に最も当てはまるように調整してください。共有の目的は、友人にあなたのニーズをよりよく理解してもらうことであり、あなたの過去の詳細をすべて伝えることではないことを忘れないでください。

あなたの健康は何よりも大切です。あなたには、友人関係に心地よさを感じる権利があります。本当の友人は、たとえ状況を完全には知らなくても、あなたの境界を尊重してくれると信じてください。自分を大切にし、あなたの気持ちは正当なものであることを忘れないでください。あなたは、この問題に取り組み、自分の心の健康を守る方法を探すことで、大きな強さを示しています。この経験を私たちに託してくださり、本当にありがとうございます。あなたは一人ではありません。

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Nicaragua\]Nicaragua](/ja/answer/as-a-child-i-experienced-inappropriate-sexual-behavior-from-an-older-sibling-this-included-verbal-comments-jokes-and-expressions-of-romantic-interest-now-as-an-adult-i-sometimes-use-crude-humor-though-not-to-the-same-extent-when-my-friends-comment-on-my-sense-of-humor-even-lightheartedly-it-triggers-memories-of-the-past-abuse-and-makes-me-feel-uncomfortable-ive-been-trying-to-reduce-my-use-of-sexual-humor-but-im-unsure-how-to-address-this-with-my-friends-without-revealing-my-traumatic-past-how-can-i-navigate-this-situation-and-set-boundaries-without-disclosing-information-im-not-comfortable-sharing-166?country=ni)[\[Image: New Zealand\]New Zealand](/ja/answer/as-a-child-i-experienced-inappropriate-sexual-behavior-from-an-older-sibling-this-included-verbal-comments-jokes-and-expressions-of-romantic-interest-now-as-an-adult-i-sometimes-use-crude-humor-though-not-to-the-same-extent-when-my-friends-comment-on-my-sense-of-humor-even-lightheartedly-it-triggers-memories-of-the-past-abuse-and-makes-me-feel-uncomfortable-ive-been-trying-to-reduce-my-use-of-sexual-humor-but-im-unsure-how-to-address-this-with-my-friends-without-revealing-my-traumatic-past-how-can-i-navigate-this-situation-and-set-boundaries-without-disclosing-information-im-not-comfortable-sharing-166?country=nz)[\[Image: Panama\]Panama](/ja/answer/as-a-child-i-experienced-inappropriate-sexual-behavior-from-an-older-sibling-this-included-verbal-comments-jokes-and-expressions-of-romantic-interest-now-as-an-adult-i-sometimes-use-crude-humor-though-not-to-the-same-extent-when-my-friends-comment-on-my-sense-of-humor-even-lightheartedly-it-triggers-memories-of-the-past-abuse-and-makes-me-feel-uncomfortable-ive-been-trying-to-reduce-my-use-of-sexual-humor-but-im-unsure-how-to-address-this-with-my-friends-without-revealing-my-traumatic-past-how-can-i-navigate-this-situation-and-set-boundaries-without-disclosing-information-im-not-comfortable-sharing-166?country=pa)[\[Image: Paraguay\]Paraguay](/ja/answer/as-a-child-i-experienced-inappropriate-sexual-behavior-from-an-older-sibling-this-included-verbal-comments-jokes-and-expressions-of-romantic-interest-now-as-an-adult-i-sometimes-use-crude-humor-though-not-to-the-same-extent-when-my-friends-comment-on-my-sense-of-humor-even-lightheartedly-it-triggers-memories-of-the-past-abuse-and-makes-me-feel-uncomfortable-ive-been-trying-to-reduce-my-use-of-sexual-humor-but-im-unsure-how-to-address-this-with-my-friends-without-revealing-my-traumatic-past-how-can-i-navigate-this-situation-and-set-boundaries-without-disclosing-information-im-not-comfortable-sharing-166?country=py)[\[Image: Peru\]Peru](/ja/answer/as-a-child-i-experienced-inappropriate-sexual-behavior-from-an-older-sibling-this-included-verbal-comments-jokes-and-expressions-of-romantic-interest-now-as-an-adult-i-sometimes-use-crude-humor-though-not-to-the-same-extent-when-my-friends-comment-on-my-sense-of-humor-even-lightheartedly-it-triggers-memories-of-the-past-abuse-and-makes-me-feel-uncomfortable-ive-been-trying-to-reduce-my-use-of-sexual-humor-but-im-unsure-how-to-address-this-with-my-friends-without-revealing-my-traumatic-past-how-can-i-navigate-this-situation-and-set-boundaries-without-disclosing-information-im-not-comfortable-sharing-166?country=pe)[\[Image: Puerto Rico\]Puerto Rico](/ja/answer/as-a-child-i-experienced-inappropriate-sexual-behavior-from-an-older-sibling-this-included-verbal-comments-jokes-and-expressions-of-romantic-interest-now-as-an-adult-i-sometimes-use-crude-humor-though-not-to-the-same-extent-when-my-friends-comment-on-my-sense-of-humor-even-lightheartedly-it-triggers-memories-of-the-past-abuse-and-makes-me-feel-uncomfortable-ive-been-trying-to-reduce-my-use-of-sexual-humor-but-im-unsure-how-to-address-this-with-my-friends-without-revealing-my-traumatic-past-how-can-i-navigate-this-situation-and-set-boundaries-without-disclosing-information-im-not-comfortable-sharing-166?country=pr)[\[Image: Spain\]Spain](/ja/answer/as-a-child-i-experienced-inappropriate-sexual-behavior-from-an-older-sibling-this-included-verbal-comments-jokes-and-expressions-of-romantic-interest-now-as-an-adult-i-sometimes-use-crude-humor-though-not-to-the-same-extent-when-my-friends-comment-on-my-sense-of-humor-even-lightheartedly-it-triggers-memories-of-the-past-abuse-and-makes-me-feel-uncomfortable-ive-been-trying-to-reduce-my-use-of-sexual-humor-but-im-unsure-how-to-address-this-with-my-friends-without-revealing-my-traumatic-past-how-can-i-navigate-this-situation-and-set-boundaries-without-disclosing-information-im-not-comfortable-sharing-166?country=es)[\[Image: United Kingdom\]United Kingdom](/ja/answer/as-a-child-i-experienced-inappropriate-sexual-behavior-from-an-older-sibling-this-included-verbal-comments-jokes-and-expressions-of-romantic-interest-now-as-an-adult-i-sometimes-use-crude-humor-though-not-to-the-same-extent-when-my-friends-comment-on-my-sense-of-humor-even-lightheartedly-it-triggers-memories-of-the-past-abuse-and-makes-me-feel-uncomfortable-ive-been-trying-to-reduce-my-use-of-sexual-humor-but-im-unsure-how-to-address-this-with-my-friends-without-revealing-my-traumatic-past-how-can-i-navigate-this-situation-and-set-boundaries-without-disclosing-information-im-not-comfortable-sharing-166?country=gb)[\[Image: Uruguay\]Uruguay](/ja/answer/as-a-child-i-experienced-inappropriate-sexual-behavior-from-an-older-sibling-this-included-verbal-comments-jokes-and-expressions-of-romantic-interest-now-as-an-adult-i-sometimes-use-crude-humor-though-not-to-the-same-extent-when-my-friends-comment-on-my-sense-of-humor-even-lightheartedly-it-triggers-memories-of-the-past-abuse-and-makes-me-feel-uncomfortable-ive-been-trying-to-reduce-my-use-of-sexual-humor-but-im-unsure-how-to-address-this-with-my-friends-without-revealing-my-traumatic-past-how-can-i-navigate-this-situation-and-set-boundaries-without-disclosing-information-im-not-comfortable-sharing-166?country=uy)[\[Image: Venezuela\]Venezuela](/ja/answer/as-a-child-i-experienced-inappropriate-sexual-behavior-from-an-older-sibling-this-included-verbal-comments-jokes-and-expressions-of-romantic-interest-now-as-an-adult-i-sometimes-use-crude-humor-though-not-to-the-same-extent-when-my-friends-comment-on-my-sense-of-humor-even-lightheartedly-it-triggers-memories-of-the-past-abuse-and-makes-me-feel-uncomfortable-ive-been-trying-to-reduce-my-use-of-sexual-humor-but-im-unsure-how-to-address-this-with-my-friends-without-revealing-my-traumatic-past-how-can-i-navigate-this-situation-and-set-boundaries-without-disclosing-information-im-not-comfortable-sharing-166?country=ve)

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[English](/en/answer/as-a-child-i-experienced-inappropriate-sexual-behavior-from-an-older-sibling-this-included-verbal-comments-jokes-and-expressions-of-romantic-interest-now-as-an-adult-i-sometimes-use-crude-humor-though-not-to-the-same-extent-when-my-friends-comment-on-my-sense-of-humor-even-lightheartedly-it-triggers-memories-of-the-past-abuse-and-makes-me-feel-uncomfortable-ive-been-trying-to-reduce-my-use-of-sexual-humor-but-im-unsure-how-to-address-this-with-my-friends-without-revealing-my-traumatic-past-how-can-i-navigate-this-situation-and-set-boundaries-without-disclosing-information-im-not-comfortable-sharing-166)[Español](/es/answer/as-a-child-i-experienced-inappropriate-sexual-behavior-from-an-older-sibling-this-included-verbal-comments-jokes-and-expressions-of-romantic-interest-now-as-an-adult-i-sometimes-use-crude-humor-though-not-to-the-same-extent-when-my-friends-comment-on-my-sense-of-humor-even-lightheartedly-it-triggers-memories-of-the-past-abuse-and-makes-me-feel-uncomfortable-ive-been-trying-to-reduce-my-use-of-sexual-humor-but-im-unsure-how-to-address-this-with-my-friends-without-revealing-my-traumatic-past-how-can-i-navigate-this-situation-and-set-boundaries-without-disclosing-information-im-not-comfortable-sharing-166)[日本語](/ja/answer/as-a-child-i-experienced-inappropriate-sexual-behavior-from-an-older-sibling-this-included-verbal-comments-jokes-and-expressions-of-romantic-interest-now-as-an-adult-i-sometimes-use-crude-humor-though-not-to-the-same-extent-when-my-friends-comment-on-my-sense-of-humor-even-lightheartedly-it-triggers-memories-of-the-past-abuse-and-makes-me-feel-uncomfortable-ive-been-trying-to-reduce-my-use-of-sexual-humor-but-im-unsure-how-to-address-this-with-my-friends-without-revealing-my-traumatic-past-how-can-i-navigate-this-situation-and-set-boundaries-without-disclosing-information-im-not-comfortable-sharing-166)

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脅迫、憎悪に満ちた言葉、性的強要

いじめ、または望まない接触

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見えるもの5つ（部屋の中と窓の外を見ることができます）

感じるもの4つ（目の前にあるもので触れるものは何ですか？）

聞こえるもの3つ

匂いを嗅ぐもの2つ

自分の好きなところ1つ。

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何かを手に持ち、その物に全神経を集中してください。影が落ちている部分や、物の中に形が浮かび上がっている部分に注目してください。手に持った時の重さや軽さ、指の裏側の表面の質感を感じてみてください（ペットを飼っている場合は、ペットと一緒に行うこともできます）。

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1\. 私はどこにいますか？

2\. 今日は何曜日ですか？

3\. 今日の日付は何ですか？

4\. 今は何月ですか？

5\. 今は何年ですか？

6\. 私は何歳ですか？

7\. 今はどんな季節ですか？

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右手の手のひらを下にして左肩に置きます。左手の手のひらを下にして右肩に置きます。自分を強くしてくれるような言葉を選びましょう。例えば、「私は力強い」などです。まず文章を声に出して読み、右手で左肩を軽く叩き、次に左手で右肩を軽く叩きます。

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腕を体の前で交差させ、胸に引き寄せます。右手で左上腕を、左手で右上腕を押さえます。優しく握り、腕を内側に引きます。しばらく握りしめた状態を保ち、その瞬間の自分にとって適切な握り加減を見つけます。力を入れたら力を抜きます。そして再びしばらく握りしめ、力を抜きます。しばらくそのままの状態を保ちます。

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別のグラウンディング活動を試してみましょう

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