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Chile\]Chile](/es/answer/i-need-help-processing-my-childhood-trauma-i-have-been-harmed-by-many-people-but-my-mother-specifically-maintained-deeply-inappropriate-boundaries-with-me-she-would-force-physical-intimacy-during-bathroom-hygiene-routines-make-sexual-comments-about-my-body-share-explicit-details-about-her-relationships-and-treated-me-more-like-a-partner-than-her-child-shed-force-me-to-watch-her-in-public-restrooms-threatening-worse-abuse-if-i-refused-whats-really-haunting-me-is-that-at-around-age-7-8-she-unknowingly-became-my-sexual-awakening-through-these-bathroom-related-incidents-and-i-developed-fetishes-that-i-still-have-as-an-adult-while-ive-made-peace-with-my-sexuality-im-horrified-realizing-she-shaped-it-through-abuse-she-denies-everything-now-claiming-i-was-just-coddled-my-therapist-validates-that-this-was-sexual-abuse-and-assault-but-i-struggle-with-the-ambiguity-since-it-wasnt-penetrative-rape-am-i-misinterpreting-things-because-of-how-it-affected-my-sexuality-i-just-want-to-be-able-to-name-what-happened-to-me-but-the-lack-of-clarity-makes-it-so-hard-382?country=cl)[\[Image: Colombia\]Colombia](/es/answer/i-need-help-processing-my-childhood-trauma-i-have-been-harmed-by-many-people-but-my-mother-specifically-maintained-deeply-inappropriate-boundaries-with-me-she-would-force-physical-intimacy-during-bathroom-hygiene-routines-make-sexual-comments-about-my-body-share-explicit-details-about-her-relationships-and-treated-me-more-like-a-partner-than-her-child-shed-force-me-to-watch-her-in-public-restrooms-threatening-worse-abuse-if-i-refused-whats-really-haunting-me-is-that-at-around-age-7-8-she-unknowingly-became-my-sexual-awakening-through-these-bathroom-related-incidents-and-i-developed-fetishes-that-i-still-have-as-an-adult-while-ive-made-peace-with-my-sexuality-im-horrified-realizing-she-shaped-it-through-abuse-she-denies-everything-now-claiming-i-was-just-coddled-my-therapist-validates-that-this-was-sexual-abuse-and-assault-but-i-struggle-with-the-ambiguity-since-it-wasnt-penetrative-rape-am-i-misinterpreting-things-because-of-how-it-affected-my-sexuality-i-just-want-to-be-able-to-name-what-happened-to-me-but-the-lack-of-clarity-makes-it-so-hard-382?country=co)[\[Image: Costa Rica\]Costa Rica](/es/answer/i-need-help-processing-my-childhood-trauma-i-have-been-harmed-by-many-people-but-my-mother-specifically-maintained-deeply-inappropriate-boundaries-with-me-she-would-force-physical-intimacy-during-bathroom-hygiene-routines-make-sexual-comments-about-my-body-share-explicit-details-about-her-relationships-and-treated-me-more-like-a-partner-than-her-child-shed-force-me-to-watch-her-in-public-restrooms-threatening-worse-abuse-if-i-refused-whats-really-haunting-me-is-that-at-around-age-7-8-she-unknowingly-became-my-sexual-awakening-through-these-bathroom-related-incidents-and-i-developed-fetishes-that-i-still-have-as-an-adult-while-ive-made-peace-with-my-sexuality-im-horrified-realizing-she-shaped-it-through-abuse-she-denies-everything-now-claiming-i-was-just-coddled-my-therapist-validates-that-this-was-sexual-abuse-and-assault-but-i-struggle-with-the-ambiguity-since-it-wasnt-penetrative-rape-am-i-misinterpreting-things-because-of-how-it-affected-my-sexuality-i-just-want-to-be-able-to-name-what-happened-to-me-but-the-lack-of-clarity-makes-it-so-hard-382?country=cr)[\[Image: Dominican Republic\]Dominican 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Ecuador\]Ecuador](/es/answer/i-need-help-processing-my-childhood-trauma-i-have-been-harmed-by-many-people-but-my-mother-specifically-maintained-deeply-inappropriate-boundaries-with-me-she-would-force-physical-intimacy-during-bathroom-hygiene-routines-make-sexual-comments-about-my-body-share-explicit-details-about-her-relationships-and-treated-me-more-like-a-partner-than-her-child-shed-force-me-to-watch-her-in-public-restrooms-threatening-worse-abuse-if-i-refused-whats-really-haunting-me-is-that-at-around-age-7-8-she-unknowingly-became-my-sexual-awakening-through-these-bathroom-related-incidents-and-i-developed-fetishes-that-i-still-have-as-an-adult-while-ive-made-peace-with-my-sexuality-im-horrified-realizing-she-shaped-it-through-abuse-she-denies-everything-now-claiming-i-was-just-coddled-my-therapist-validates-that-this-was-sexual-abuse-and-assault-but-i-struggle-with-the-ambiguity-since-it-wasnt-penetrative-rape-am-i-misinterpreting-things-because-of-how-it-affected-my-sexuality-i-just-want-to-be-able-to-name-what-happened-to-me-but-the-lack-of-clarity-makes-it-so-hard-382?country=ec)[\[Image: El Salvador\]El Salvador](/es/answer/i-need-help-processing-my-childhood-trauma-i-have-been-harmed-by-many-people-but-my-mother-specifically-maintained-deeply-inappropriate-boundaries-with-me-she-would-force-physical-intimacy-during-bathroom-hygiene-routines-make-sexual-comments-about-my-body-share-explicit-details-about-her-relationships-and-treated-me-more-like-a-partner-than-her-child-shed-force-me-to-watch-her-in-public-restrooms-threatening-worse-abuse-if-i-refused-whats-really-haunting-me-is-that-at-around-age-7-8-she-unknowingly-became-my-sexual-awakening-through-these-bathroom-related-incidents-and-i-developed-fetishes-that-i-still-have-as-an-adult-while-ive-made-peace-with-my-sexuality-im-horrified-realizing-she-shaped-it-through-abuse-she-denies-everything-now-claiming-i-was-just-coddled-my-therapist-validates-that-this-was-sexual-abuse-and-assault-but-i-struggle-with-the-ambiguity-since-it-wasnt-penetrative-rape-am-i-misinterpreting-things-because-of-how-it-affected-my-sexuality-i-just-want-to-be-able-to-name-what-happened-to-me-but-the-lack-of-clarity-makes-it-so-hard-382?country=sv)[\[Image: Equatorial Guinea\]Equatorial Guinea](/es/answer/i-need-help-processing-my-childhood-trauma-i-have-been-harmed-by-many-people-but-my-mother-specifically-maintained-deeply-inappropriate-boundaries-with-me-she-would-force-physical-intimacy-during-bathroom-hygiene-routines-make-sexual-comments-about-my-body-share-explicit-details-about-her-relationships-and-treated-me-more-like-a-partner-than-her-child-shed-force-me-to-watch-her-in-public-restrooms-threatening-worse-abuse-if-i-refused-whats-really-haunting-me-is-that-at-around-age-7-8-she-unknowingly-became-my-sexual-awakening-through-these-bathroom-related-incidents-and-i-developed-fetishes-that-i-still-have-as-an-adult-while-ive-made-peace-with-my-sexuality-im-horrified-realizing-she-shaped-it-through-abuse-she-denies-everything-now-claiming-i-was-just-coddled-my-therapist-validates-that-this-was-sexual-abuse-and-assault-but-i-struggle-with-the-ambiguity-since-it-wasnt-penetrative-rape-am-i-misinterpreting-things-because-of-how-it-affected-my-sexuality-i-just-want-to-be-able-to-name-what-happened-to-me-but-the-lack-of-clarity-makes-it-so-hard-382?country=gq)[\[Image: Guatemala\]Guatemala](/es/answer/i-need-help-processing-my-childhood-trauma-i-have-been-harmed-by-many-people-but-my-mother-specifically-maintained-deeply-inappropriate-boundaries-with-me-she-would-force-physical-intimacy-during-bathroom-hygiene-routines-make-sexual-comments-about-my-body-share-explicit-details-about-her-relationships-and-treated-me-more-like-a-partner-than-her-child-shed-force-me-to-watch-her-in-public-restrooms-threatening-worse-abuse-if-i-refused-whats-really-haunting-me-is-that-at-around-age-7-8-she-unknowingly-became-my-sexual-awakening-through-these-bathroom-related-incidents-and-i-developed-fetishes-that-i-still-have-as-an-adult-while-ive-made-peace-with-my-sexuality-im-horrified-realizing-she-shaped-it-through-abuse-she-denies-everything-now-claiming-i-was-just-coddled-my-therapist-validates-that-this-was-sexual-abuse-and-assault-but-i-struggle-with-the-ambiguity-since-it-wasnt-penetrative-rape-am-i-misinterpreting-things-because-of-how-it-affected-my-sexuality-i-just-want-to-be-able-to-name-what-happened-to-me-but-the-lack-of-clarity-makes-it-so-hard-382?country=gt)[\[Image: Honduras\]Honduras](/es/answer/i-need-help-processing-my-childhood-trauma-i-have-been-harmed-by-many-people-but-my-mother-specifically-maintained-deeply-inappropriate-boundaries-with-me-she-would-force-physical-intimacy-during-bathroom-hygiene-routines-make-sexual-comments-about-my-body-share-explicit-details-about-her-relationships-and-treated-me-more-like-a-partner-than-her-child-shed-force-me-to-watch-her-in-public-restrooms-threatening-worse-abuse-if-i-refused-whats-really-haunting-me-is-that-at-around-age-7-8-she-unknowingly-became-my-sexual-awakening-through-these-bathroom-related-incidents-and-i-developed-fetishes-that-i-still-have-as-an-adult-while-ive-made-peace-with-my-sexuality-im-horrified-realizing-she-shaped-it-through-abuse-she-denies-everything-now-claiming-i-was-just-coddled-my-therapist-validates-that-this-was-sexual-abuse-and-assault-but-i-struggle-with-the-ambiguity-since-it-wasnt-penetrative-rape-am-i-misinterpreting-things-because-of-how-it-affected-my-sexuality-i-just-want-to-be-able-to-name-what-happened-to-me-but-the-lack-of-clarity-makes-it-so-hard-382?country=hn)[\[Image: Ireland\]Ireland](/es/answer/i-need-help-processing-my-childhood-trauma-i-have-been-harmed-by-many-people-but-my-mother-specifically-maintained-deeply-inappropriate-boundaries-with-me-she-would-force-physical-intimacy-during-bathroom-hygiene-routines-make-sexual-comments-about-my-body-share-explicit-details-about-her-relationships-and-treated-me-more-like-a-partner-than-her-child-shed-force-me-to-watch-her-in-public-restrooms-threatening-worse-abuse-if-i-refused-whats-really-haunting-me-is-that-at-around-age-7-8-she-unknowingly-became-my-sexual-awakening-through-these-bathroom-related-incidents-and-i-developed-fetishes-that-i-still-have-as-an-adult-while-ive-made-peace-with-my-sexuality-im-horrified-realizing-she-shaped-it-through-abuse-she-denies-everything-now-claiming-i-was-just-coddled-my-therapist-validates-that-this-was-sexual-abuse-and-assault-but-i-struggle-with-the-ambiguity-since-it-wasnt-penetrative-rape-am-i-misinterpreting-things-because-of-how-it-affected-my-sexuality-i-just-want-to-be-able-to-name-what-happened-to-me-but-the-lack-of-clarity-makes-it-so-hard-382?country=ie)[\[Image: Japan\]Japan](/es/answer/i-need-help-processing-my-childhood-trauma-i-have-been-harmed-by-many-people-but-my-mother-specifically-maintained-deeply-inappropriate-boundaries-with-me-she-would-force-physical-intimacy-during-bathroom-hygiene-routines-make-sexual-comments-about-my-body-share-explicit-details-about-her-relationships-and-treated-me-more-like-a-partner-than-her-child-shed-force-me-to-watch-her-in-public-restrooms-threatening-worse-abuse-if-i-refused-whats-really-haunting-me-is-that-at-around-age-7-8-she-unknowingly-became-my-sexual-awakening-through-these-bathroom-related-incidents-and-i-developed-fetishes-that-i-still-have-as-an-adult-while-ive-made-peace-with-my-sexuality-im-horrified-realizing-she-shaped-it-through-abuse-she-denies-everything-now-claiming-i-was-just-coddled-my-therapist-validates-that-this-was-sexual-abuse-and-assault-but-i-struggle-with-the-ambiguity-since-it-wasnt-penetrative-rape-am-i-misinterpreting-things-because-of-how-it-affected-my-sexuality-i-just-want-to-be-able-to-name-what-happened-to-me-but-the-lack-of-clarity-makes-it-so-hard-382?country=jp)[\[Image: 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# Necesito ayuda para procesar mi trauma infantil. Muchas personas me han hecho daño, pero mi madre específicamente mantuvo límites profundamente inapropiados conmigo. Me obligaba a tener intimidad física durante las rutinas de higiene y baño, hacía comentarios sexuales sobre mi cuerpo, compartía detalles explícitos sobre sus relaciones y me trataba más como a una pareja que como a su hija. Me obligaba a mirarla en baños públicos, amenazándome con un abuso peor si me negaba. Lo que realmente me atormenta es que, alrededor de los 7 u 8 años, sin saberlo, se convirtió en mi despertar sexual a través de estos incidentes relacionados con el baño, y desarrollé fetiches que todavía tengo como adulta. Si bien he hecho las paces con mi sexualidad, me horroriza darme cuenta de que ella la moldeó a través del abuso. Ella lo niega todo ahora, afirmando que simplemente me "mimaron". Mi terapeuta valida que esto fue abuso y agresión sexual, pero lucho con la ambigüedad ya que no fue una violación con penetración. ¿Estoy malinterpretando las cosas debido a cómo afectó mi sexualidad? Sólo quiero poder nombrar lo que me pasó, pero la falta de claridad lo hace muy difícil.

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Respuesta por **Dr. Laura**

Enfermera de Salud Mental con Doctorado y Examinadora de Enfermera de Agresión Sexual

Temas:[Comprender y aceptar la curación](/es/learn/topics/understanding-and-embracing-healing)

Muchas gracias por confiarnos tu historia. Lamento profundamente que hayas tenido que soportar experiencias tan dolorosas y confusas. Lo que has descrito son graves violaciones de tus límites y de tu confianza por parte de alguien que debería haberte protegido y cuidado. Tus sentimientos de dolor, confusión y traición son completamente válidos.

Las conductas que has descrito en relación con tu madre parecen ser, en efecto, formas de abuso. Tratarte como a una compañera en lugar de como a una niña, exponerte a contenido inapropiado, invadir tu privacidad, hacer comentarios inquietantes sobre tu cuerpo y tener contacto físico no deseado son acciones profundamente inapropiadas y dañinas. Es importante reconocer que el abuso puede adoptar muchas formas y que no siempre encaja en una única definición o etiqueta.

Independientemente de si el término "violación" se aplica o no, lo más importante es que reconozcas que fuiste objeto de un comportamiento abusivo y explotador, y que esto ha tenido un impacto significativo en tu vida. La ambigüedad que sientes no es poco común entre los sobrevivientes, especialmente cuando el abuso no encaja en las narrativas estereotipadas que la sociedad suele presentar. El abuso por parte de un cuidador, en particular un padre, agrega capas de complejidad debido a la confianza y dependencia inherentes a esa relación.

No es tu culpa que te hayan pasado estas cosas. Eras un niño y tu madre era responsable de tu cuidado y bienestar. La confusión en torno a tus sentimientos y el desarrollo de tus intereses son respuestas comprensibles a las experiencias que tuviste. Muchos sobrevivientes lidian con emociones y preguntas similares sobre sus identidades y relaciones.

La validación de su terapeuta de que lo que experimentó es abuso y agresión sexual es importante. Es normal cuestionarse y dudar de uno mismo, especialmente cuando el abusador niega haber cometido algún delito o minimiza sus acciones. Tenga en cuenta que su perspectiva importa y que su dolor es real.

También es importante que seas amable contigo mismo en lo que respecta a tus pensamientos y sentimientos sobre tu fetiche. A veces, nuestro cerebro desarrolla mecanismos de afrontamiento en respuesta a un trauma, y esto no te hace culpable ni disminuye tu valor. Explorar estos sentimientos con tu terapeuta puede ayudarte a comprenderlos y procesarlos en un entorno seguro y de apoyo.

Mereces sanar y encontrar la paz. Seguir trabajando con un profesional de la salud mental de confianza puede brindarte el apoyo y la orientación que necesitas en este proceso. Recuerda que no estás solo y que hay personas que se preocupan por ti y quieren ayudarte. Gracias de nuevo por compartir tu historia con nosotros. Tu fortaleza para enfrentar estos recuerdos difíciles es notable. Sé amable contigo mismo mientras atraviesas este proceso de sanación.

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Bolivia\]Bolivia](/es/answer/i-need-help-processing-my-childhood-trauma-i-have-been-harmed-by-many-people-but-my-mother-specifically-maintained-deeply-inappropriate-boundaries-with-me-she-would-force-physical-intimacy-during-bathroom-hygiene-routines-make-sexual-comments-about-my-body-share-explicit-details-about-her-relationships-and-treated-me-more-like-a-partner-than-her-child-shed-force-me-to-watch-her-in-public-restrooms-threatening-worse-abuse-if-i-refused-whats-really-haunting-me-is-that-at-around-age-7-8-she-unknowingly-became-my-sexual-awakening-through-these-bathroom-related-incidents-and-i-developed-fetishes-that-i-still-have-as-an-adult-while-ive-made-peace-with-my-sexuality-im-horrified-realizing-she-shaped-it-through-abuse-she-denies-everything-now-claiming-i-was-just-coddled-my-therapist-validates-that-this-was-sexual-abuse-and-assault-but-i-struggle-with-the-ambiguity-since-it-wasnt-penetrative-rape-am-i-misinterpreting-things-because-of-how-it-affected-my-sexuality-i-just-want-to-be-able-to-name-what-happened-to-me-but-the-lack-of-clarity-makes-it-so-hard-382?country=bo)[\[Image: Canada\]Canada](/es/answer/i-need-help-processing-my-childhood-trauma-i-have-been-harmed-by-many-people-but-my-mother-specifically-maintained-deeply-inappropriate-boundaries-with-me-she-would-force-physical-intimacy-during-bathroom-hygiene-routines-make-sexual-comments-about-my-body-share-explicit-details-about-her-relationships-and-treated-me-more-like-a-partner-than-her-child-shed-force-me-to-watch-her-in-public-restrooms-threatening-worse-abuse-if-i-refused-whats-really-haunting-me-is-that-at-around-age-7-8-she-unknowingly-became-my-sexual-awakening-through-these-bathroom-related-incidents-and-i-developed-fetishes-that-i-still-have-as-an-adult-while-ive-made-peace-with-my-sexuality-im-horrified-realizing-she-shaped-it-through-abuse-she-denies-everything-now-claiming-i-was-just-coddled-my-therapist-validates-that-this-was-sexual-abuse-and-assault-but-i-struggle-with-the-ambiguity-since-it-wasnt-penetrative-rape-am-i-misinterpreting-things-because-of-how-it-affected-my-sexuality-i-just-want-to-be-able-to-name-what-happened-to-me-but-the-lack-of-clarity-makes-it-so-hard-382?country=ca)[\[Image: Chile\]Chile](/es/answer/i-need-help-processing-my-childhood-trauma-i-have-been-harmed-by-many-people-but-my-mother-specifically-maintained-deeply-inappropriate-boundaries-with-me-she-would-force-physical-intimacy-during-bathroom-hygiene-routines-make-sexual-comments-about-my-body-share-explicit-details-about-her-relationships-and-treated-me-more-like-a-partner-than-her-child-shed-force-me-to-watch-her-in-public-restrooms-threatening-worse-abuse-if-i-refused-whats-really-haunting-me-is-that-at-around-age-7-8-she-unknowingly-became-my-sexual-awakening-through-these-bathroom-related-incidents-and-i-developed-fetishes-that-i-still-have-as-an-adult-while-ive-made-peace-with-my-sexuality-im-horrified-realizing-she-shaped-it-through-abuse-she-denies-everything-now-claiming-i-was-just-coddled-my-therapist-validates-that-this-was-sexual-abuse-and-assault-but-i-struggle-with-the-ambiguity-since-it-wasnt-penetrative-rape-am-i-misinterpreting-things-because-of-how-it-affected-my-sexuality-i-just-want-to-be-able-to-name-what-happened-to-me-but-the-lack-of-clarity-makes-it-so-hard-382?country=cl)[\[Image: Colombia\]Colombia](/es/answer/i-need-help-processing-my-childhood-trauma-i-have-been-harmed-by-many-people-but-my-mother-specifically-maintained-deeply-inappropriate-boundaries-with-me-she-would-force-physical-intimacy-during-bathroom-hygiene-routines-make-sexual-comments-about-my-body-share-explicit-details-about-her-relationships-and-treated-me-more-like-a-partner-than-her-child-shed-force-me-to-watch-her-in-public-restrooms-threatening-worse-abuse-if-i-refused-whats-really-haunting-me-is-that-at-around-age-7-8-she-unknowingly-became-my-sexual-awakening-through-these-bathroom-related-incidents-and-i-developed-fetishes-that-i-still-have-as-an-adult-while-ive-made-peace-with-my-sexuality-im-horrified-realizing-she-shaped-it-through-abuse-she-denies-everything-now-claiming-i-was-just-coddled-my-therapist-validates-that-this-was-sexual-abuse-and-assault-but-i-struggle-with-the-ambiguity-since-it-wasnt-penetrative-rape-am-i-misinterpreting-things-because-of-how-it-affected-my-sexuality-i-just-want-to-be-able-to-name-what-happened-to-me-but-the-lack-of-clarity-makes-it-so-hard-382?country=co)[\[Image: Costa Rica\]Costa Rica](/es/answer/i-need-help-processing-my-childhood-trauma-i-have-been-harmed-by-many-people-but-my-mother-specifically-maintained-deeply-inappropriate-boundaries-with-me-she-would-force-physical-intimacy-during-bathroom-hygiene-routines-make-sexual-comments-about-my-body-share-explicit-details-about-her-relationships-and-treated-me-more-like-a-partner-than-her-child-shed-force-me-to-watch-her-in-public-restrooms-threatening-worse-abuse-if-i-refused-whats-really-haunting-me-is-that-at-around-age-7-8-she-unknowingly-became-my-sexual-awakening-through-these-bathroom-related-incidents-and-i-developed-fetishes-that-i-still-have-as-an-adult-while-ive-made-peace-with-my-sexuality-im-horrified-realizing-she-shaped-it-through-abuse-she-denies-everything-now-claiming-i-was-just-coddled-my-therapist-validates-that-this-was-sexual-abuse-and-assault-but-i-struggle-with-the-ambiguity-since-it-wasnt-penetrative-rape-am-i-misinterpreting-things-because-of-how-it-affected-my-sexuality-i-just-want-to-be-able-to-name-what-happened-to-me-but-the-lack-of-clarity-makes-it-so-hard-382?country=cr)[\[Image: Dominican Republic\]Dominican Republic](/es/answer/i-need-help-processing-my-childhood-trauma-i-have-been-harmed-by-many-people-but-my-mother-specifically-maintained-deeply-inappropriate-boundaries-with-me-she-would-force-physical-intimacy-during-bathroom-hygiene-routines-make-sexual-comments-about-my-body-share-explicit-details-about-her-relationships-and-treated-me-more-like-a-partner-than-her-child-shed-force-me-to-watch-her-in-public-restrooms-threatening-worse-abuse-if-i-refused-whats-really-haunting-me-is-that-at-around-age-7-8-she-unknowingly-became-my-sexual-awakening-through-these-bathroom-related-incidents-and-i-developed-fetishes-that-i-still-have-as-an-adult-while-ive-made-peace-with-my-sexuality-im-horrified-realizing-she-shaped-it-through-abuse-she-denies-everything-now-claiming-i-was-just-coddled-my-therapist-validates-that-this-was-sexual-abuse-and-assault-but-i-struggle-with-the-ambiguity-since-it-wasnt-penetrative-rape-am-i-misinterpreting-things-because-of-how-it-affected-my-sexuality-i-just-want-to-be-able-to-name-what-happened-to-me-but-the-lack-of-clarity-makes-it-so-hard-382?country=do)[\[Image: Ecuador\]Ecuador](/es/answer/i-need-help-processing-my-childhood-trauma-i-have-been-harmed-by-many-people-but-my-mother-specifically-maintained-deeply-inappropriate-boundaries-with-me-she-would-force-physical-intimacy-during-bathroom-hygiene-routines-make-sexual-comments-about-my-body-share-explicit-details-about-her-relationships-and-treated-me-more-like-a-partner-than-her-child-shed-force-me-to-watch-her-in-public-restrooms-threatening-worse-abuse-if-i-refused-whats-really-haunting-me-is-that-at-around-age-7-8-she-unknowingly-became-my-sexual-awakening-through-these-bathroom-related-incidents-and-i-developed-fetishes-that-i-still-have-as-an-adult-while-ive-made-peace-with-my-sexuality-im-horrified-realizing-she-shaped-it-through-abuse-she-denies-everything-now-claiming-i-was-just-coddled-my-therapist-validates-that-this-was-sexual-abuse-and-assault-but-i-struggle-with-the-ambiguity-since-it-wasnt-penetrative-rape-am-i-misinterpreting-things-because-of-how-it-affected-my-sexuality-i-just-want-to-be-able-to-name-what-happened-to-me-but-the-lack-of-clarity-makes-it-so-hard-382?country=ec)[\[Image: El Salvador\]El Salvador](/es/answer/i-need-help-processing-my-childhood-trauma-i-have-been-harmed-by-many-people-but-my-mother-specifically-maintained-deeply-inappropriate-boundaries-with-me-she-would-force-physical-intimacy-during-bathroom-hygiene-routines-make-sexual-comments-about-my-body-share-explicit-details-about-her-relationships-and-treated-me-more-like-a-partner-than-her-child-shed-force-me-to-watch-her-in-public-restrooms-threatening-worse-abuse-if-i-refused-whats-really-haunting-me-is-that-at-around-age-7-8-she-unknowingly-became-my-sexual-awakening-through-these-bathroom-related-incidents-and-i-developed-fetishes-that-i-still-have-as-an-adult-while-ive-made-peace-with-my-sexuality-im-horrified-realizing-she-shaped-it-through-abuse-she-denies-everything-now-claiming-i-was-just-coddled-my-therapist-validates-that-this-was-sexual-abuse-and-assault-but-i-struggle-with-the-ambiguity-since-it-wasnt-penetrative-rape-am-i-misinterpreting-things-because-of-how-it-affected-my-sexuality-i-just-want-to-be-able-to-name-what-happened-to-me-but-the-lack-of-clarity-makes-it-so-hard-382?country=sv)[\[Image: Equatorial Guinea\]Equatorial Guinea](/es/answer/i-need-help-processing-my-childhood-trauma-i-have-been-harmed-by-many-people-but-my-mother-specifically-maintained-deeply-inappropriate-boundaries-with-me-she-would-force-physical-intimacy-during-bathroom-hygiene-routines-make-sexual-comments-about-my-body-share-explicit-details-about-her-relationships-and-treated-me-more-like-a-partner-than-her-child-shed-force-me-to-watch-her-in-public-restrooms-threatening-worse-abuse-if-i-refused-whats-really-haunting-me-is-that-at-around-age-7-8-she-unknowingly-became-my-sexual-awakening-through-these-bathroom-related-incidents-and-i-developed-fetishes-that-i-still-have-as-an-adult-while-ive-made-peace-with-my-sexuality-im-horrified-realizing-she-shaped-it-through-abuse-she-denies-everything-now-claiming-i-was-just-coddled-my-therapist-validates-that-this-was-sexual-abuse-and-assault-but-i-struggle-with-the-ambiguity-since-it-wasnt-penetrative-rape-am-i-misinterpreting-things-because-of-how-it-affected-my-sexuality-i-just-want-to-be-able-to-name-what-happened-to-me-but-the-lack-of-clarity-makes-it-so-hard-382?country=gq)[\[Image: Guatemala\]Guatemala](/es/answer/i-need-help-processing-my-childhood-trauma-i-have-been-harmed-by-many-people-but-my-mother-specifically-maintained-deeply-inappropriate-boundaries-with-me-she-would-force-physical-intimacy-during-bathroom-hygiene-routines-make-sexual-comments-about-my-body-share-explicit-details-about-her-relationships-and-treated-me-more-like-a-partner-than-her-child-shed-force-me-to-watch-her-in-public-restrooms-threatening-worse-abuse-if-i-refused-whats-really-haunting-me-is-that-at-around-age-7-8-she-unknowingly-became-my-sexual-awakening-through-these-bathroom-related-incidents-and-i-developed-fetishes-that-i-still-have-as-an-adult-while-ive-made-peace-with-my-sexuality-im-horrified-realizing-she-shaped-it-through-abuse-she-denies-everything-now-claiming-i-was-just-coddled-my-therapist-validates-that-this-was-sexual-abuse-and-assault-but-i-struggle-with-the-ambiguity-since-it-wasnt-penetrative-rape-am-i-misinterpreting-things-because-of-how-it-affected-my-sexuality-i-just-want-to-be-able-to-name-what-happened-to-me-but-the-lack-of-clarity-makes-it-so-hard-382?country=gt)[\[Image: Honduras\]Honduras](/es/answer/i-need-help-processing-my-childhood-trauma-i-have-been-harmed-by-many-people-but-my-mother-specifically-maintained-deeply-inappropriate-boundaries-with-me-she-would-force-physical-intimacy-during-bathroom-hygiene-routines-make-sexual-comments-about-my-body-share-explicit-details-about-her-relationships-and-treated-me-more-like-a-partner-than-her-child-shed-force-me-to-watch-her-in-public-restrooms-threatening-worse-abuse-if-i-refused-whats-really-haunting-me-is-that-at-around-age-7-8-she-unknowingly-became-my-sexual-awakening-through-these-bathroom-related-incidents-and-i-developed-fetishes-that-i-still-have-as-an-adult-while-ive-made-peace-with-my-sexuality-im-horrified-realizing-she-shaped-it-through-abuse-she-denies-everything-now-claiming-i-was-just-coddled-my-therapist-validates-that-this-was-sexual-abuse-and-assault-but-i-struggle-with-the-ambiguity-since-it-wasnt-penetrative-rape-am-i-misinterpreting-things-because-of-how-it-affected-my-sexuality-i-just-want-to-be-able-to-name-what-happened-to-me-but-the-lack-of-clarity-makes-it-so-hard-382?country=hn)[\[Image: Ireland\]Ireland](/es/answer/i-need-help-processing-my-childhood-trauma-i-have-been-harmed-by-many-people-but-my-mother-specifically-maintained-deeply-inappropriate-boundaries-with-me-she-would-force-physical-intimacy-during-bathroom-hygiene-routines-make-sexual-comments-about-my-body-share-explicit-details-about-her-relationships-and-treated-me-more-like-a-partner-than-her-child-shed-force-me-to-watch-her-in-public-restrooms-threatening-worse-abuse-if-i-refused-whats-really-haunting-me-is-that-at-around-age-7-8-she-unknowingly-became-my-sexual-awakening-through-these-bathroom-related-incidents-and-i-developed-fetishes-that-i-still-have-as-an-adult-while-ive-made-peace-with-my-sexuality-im-horrified-realizing-she-shaped-it-through-abuse-she-denies-everything-now-claiming-i-was-just-coddled-my-therapist-validates-that-this-was-sexual-abuse-and-assault-but-i-struggle-with-the-ambiguity-since-it-wasnt-penetrative-rape-am-i-misinterpreting-things-because-of-how-it-affected-my-sexuality-i-just-want-to-be-able-to-name-what-happened-to-me-but-the-lack-of-clarity-makes-it-so-hard-382?country=ie)[\[Image: Japan\]Japan](/es/answer/i-need-help-processing-my-childhood-trauma-i-have-been-harmed-by-many-people-but-my-mother-specifically-maintained-deeply-inappropriate-boundaries-with-me-she-would-force-physical-intimacy-during-bathroom-hygiene-routines-make-sexual-comments-about-my-body-share-explicit-details-about-her-relationships-and-treated-me-more-like-a-partner-than-her-child-shed-force-me-to-watch-her-in-public-restrooms-threatening-worse-abuse-if-i-refused-whats-really-haunting-me-is-that-at-around-age-7-8-she-unknowingly-became-my-sexual-awakening-through-these-bathroom-related-incidents-and-i-developed-fetishes-that-i-still-have-as-an-adult-while-ive-made-peace-with-my-sexuality-im-horrified-realizing-she-shaped-it-through-abuse-she-denies-everything-now-claiming-i-was-just-coddled-my-therapist-validates-that-this-was-sexual-abuse-and-assault-but-i-struggle-with-the-ambiguity-since-it-wasnt-penetrative-rape-am-i-misinterpreting-things-because-of-how-it-affected-my-sexuality-i-just-want-to-be-able-to-name-what-happened-to-me-but-the-lack-of-clarity-makes-it-so-hard-382?country=jp)[\[Image: Mexico\]Mexico](/es/answer/i-need-help-processing-my-childhood-trauma-i-have-been-harmed-by-many-people-but-my-mother-specifically-maintained-deeply-inappropriate-boundaries-with-me-she-would-force-physical-intimacy-during-bathroom-hygiene-routines-make-sexual-comments-about-my-body-share-explicit-details-about-her-relationships-and-treated-me-more-like-a-partner-than-her-child-shed-force-me-to-watch-her-in-public-restrooms-threatening-worse-abuse-if-i-refused-whats-really-haunting-me-is-that-at-around-age-7-8-she-unknowingly-became-my-sexual-awakening-through-these-bathroom-related-incidents-and-i-developed-fetishes-that-i-still-have-as-an-adult-while-ive-made-peace-with-my-sexuality-im-horrified-realizing-she-shaped-it-through-abuse-she-denies-everything-now-claiming-i-was-just-coddled-my-therapist-validates-that-this-was-sexual-abuse-and-assault-but-i-struggle-with-the-ambiguity-since-it-wasnt-penetrative-rape-am-i-misinterpreting-things-because-of-how-it-affected-my-sexuality-i-just-want-to-be-able-to-name-what-happened-to-me-but-the-lack-of-clarity-makes-it-so-hard-382?country=mx)[\[Image: Nicaragua\]Nicaragua](/es/answer/i-need-help-processing-my-childhood-trauma-i-have-been-harmed-by-many-people-but-my-mother-specifically-maintained-deeply-inappropriate-boundaries-with-me-she-would-force-physical-intimacy-during-bathroom-hygiene-routines-make-sexual-comments-about-my-body-share-explicit-details-about-her-relationships-and-treated-me-more-like-a-partner-than-her-child-shed-force-me-to-watch-her-in-public-restrooms-threatening-worse-abuse-if-i-refused-whats-really-haunting-me-is-that-at-around-age-7-8-she-unknowingly-became-my-sexual-awakening-through-these-bathroom-related-incidents-and-i-developed-fetishes-that-i-still-have-as-an-adult-while-ive-made-peace-with-my-sexuality-im-horrified-realizing-she-shaped-it-through-abuse-she-denies-everything-now-claiming-i-was-just-coddled-my-therapist-validates-that-this-was-sexual-abuse-and-assault-but-i-struggle-with-the-ambiguity-since-it-wasnt-penetrative-rape-am-i-misinterpreting-things-because-of-how-it-affected-my-sexuality-i-just-want-to-be-able-to-name-what-happened-to-me-but-the-lack-of-clarity-makes-it-so-hard-382?country=ni)[\[Image: New Zealand\]New Zealand](/es/answer/i-need-help-processing-my-childhood-trauma-i-have-been-harmed-by-many-people-but-my-mother-specifically-maintained-deeply-inappropriate-boundaries-with-me-she-would-force-physical-intimacy-during-bathroom-hygiene-routines-make-sexual-comments-about-my-body-share-explicit-details-about-her-relationships-and-treated-me-more-like-a-partner-than-her-child-shed-force-me-to-watch-her-in-public-restrooms-threatening-worse-abuse-if-i-refused-whats-really-haunting-me-is-that-at-around-age-7-8-she-unknowingly-became-my-sexual-awakening-through-these-bathroom-related-incidents-and-i-developed-fetishes-that-i-still-have-as-an-adult-while-ive-made-peace-with-my-sexuality-im-horrified-realizing-she-shaped-it-through-abuse-she-denies-everything-now-claiming-i-was-just-coddled-my-therapist-validates-that-this-was-sexual-abuse-and-assault-but-i-struggle-with-the-ambiguity-since-it-wasnt-penetrative-rape-am-i-misinterpreting-things-because-of-how-it-affected-my-sexuality-i-just-want-to-be-able-to-name-what-happened-to-me-but-the-lack-of-clarity-makes-it-so-hard-382?country=nz)[\[Image: 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Paraguay\]Paraguay](/es/answer/i-need-help-processing-my-childhood-trauma-i-have-been-harmed-by-many-people-but-my-mother-specifically-maintained-deeply-inappropriate-boundaries-with-me-she-would-force-physical-intimacy-during-bathroom-hygiene-routines-make-sexual-comments-about-my-body-share-explicit-details-about-her-relationships-and-treated-me-more-like-a-partner-than-her-child-shed-force-me-to-watch-her-in-public-restrooms-threatening-worse-abuse-if-i-refused-whats-really-haunting-me-is-that-at-around-age-7-8-she-unknowingly-became-my-sexual-awakening-through-these-bathroom-related-incidents-and-i-developed-fetishes-that-i-still-have-as-an-adult-while-ive-made-peace-with-my-sexuality-im-horrified-realizing-she-shaped-it-through-abuse-she-denies-everything-now-claiming-i-was-just-coddled-my-therapist-validates-that-this-was-sexual-abuse-and-assault-but-i-struggle-with-the-ambiguity-since-it-wasnt-penetrative-rape-am-i-misinterpreting-things-because-of-how-it-affected-my-sexuality-i-just-want-to-be-able-to-name-what-happened-to-me-but-the-lack-of-clarity-makes-it-so-hard-382?country=py)[\[Image: 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Puerto Rico\]Puerto Rico](/es/answer/i-need-help-processing-my-childhood-trauma-i-have-been-harmed-by-many-people-but-my-mother-specifically-maintained-deeply-inappropriate-boundaries-with-me-she-would-force-physical-intimacy-during-bathroom-hygiene-routines-make-sexual-comments-about-my-body-share-explicit-details-about-her-relationships-and-treated-me-more-like-a-partner-than-her-child-shed-force-me-to-watch-her-in-public-restrooms-threatening-worse-abuse-if-i-refused-whats-really-haunting-me-is-that-at-around-age-7-8-she-unknowingly-became-my-sexual-awakening-through-these-bathroom-related-incidents-and-i-developed-fetishes-that-i-still-have-as-an-adult-while-ive-made-peace-with-my-sexuality-im-horrified-realizing-she-shaped-it-through-abuse-she-denies-everything-now-claiming-i-was-just-coddled-my-therapist-validates-that-this-was-sexual-abuse-and-assault-but-i-struggle-with-the-ambiguity-since-it-wasnt-penetrative-rape-am-i-misinterpreting-things-because-of-how-it-affected-my-sexuality-i-just-want-to-be-able-to-name-what-happened-to-me-but-the-lack-of-clarity-makes-it-so-hard-382?country=pr)[\[Image: Spain\]Spain](/es/answer/i-need-help-processing-my-childhood-trauma-i-have-been-harmed-by-many-people-but-my-mother-specifically-maintained-deeply-inappropriate-boundaries-with-me-she-would-force-physical-intimacy-during-bathroom-hygiene-routines-make-sexual-comments-about-my-body-share-explicit-details-about-her-relationships-and-treated-me-more-like-a-partner-than-her-child-shed-force-me-to-watch-her-in-public-restrooms-threatening-worse-abuse-if-i-refused-whats-really-haunting-me-is-that-at-around-age-7-8-she-unknowingly-became-my-sexual-awakening-through-these-bathroom-related-incidents-and-i-developed-fetishes-that-i-still-have-as-an-adult-while-ive-made-peace-with-my-sexuality-im-horrified-realizing-she-shaped-it-through-abuse-she-denies-everything-now-claiming-i-was-just-coddled-my-therapist-validates-that-this-was-sexual-abuse-and-assault-but-i-struggle-with-the-ambiguity-since-it-wasnt-penetrative-rape-am-i-misinterpreting-things-because-of-how-it-affected-my-sexuality-i-just-want-to-be-able-to-name-what-happened-to-me-but-the-lack-of-clarity-makes-it-so-hard-382?country=es)[\[Image: United Kingdom\]United Kingdom](/es/answer/i-need-help-processing-my-childhood-trauma-i-have-been-harmed-by-many-people-but-my-mother-specifically-maintained-deeply-inappropriate-boundaries-with-me-she-would-force-physical-intimacy-during-bathroom-hygiene-routines-make-sexual-comments-about-my-body-share-explicit-details-about-her-relationships-and-treated-me-more-like-a-partner-than-her-child-shed-force-me-to-watch-her-in-public-restrooms-threatening-worse-abuse-if-i-refused-whats-really-haunting-me-is-that-at-around-age-7-8-she-unknowingly-became-my-sexual-awakening-through-these-bathroom-related-incidents-and-i-developed-fetishes-that-i-still-have-as-an-adult-while-ive-made-peace-with-my-sexuality-im-horrified-realizing-she-shaped-it-through-abuse-she-denies-everything-now-claiming-i-was-just-coddled-my-therapist-validates-that-this-was-sexual-abuse-and-assault-but-i-struggle-with-the-ambiguity-since-it-wasnt-penetrative-rape-am-i-misinterpreting-things-because-of-how-it-affected-my-sexuality-i-just-want-to-be-able-to-name-what-happened-to-me-but-the-lack-of-clarity-makes-it-so-hard-382?country=gb)[\[Image: Uruguay\]Uruguay](/es/answer/i-need-help-processing-my-childhood-trauma-i-have-been-harmed-by-many-people-but-my-mother-specifically-maintained-deeply-inappropriate-boundaries-with-me-she-would-force-physical-intimacy-during-bathroom-hygiene-routines-make-sexual-comments-about-my-body-share-explicit-details-about-her-relationships-and-treated-me-more-like-a-partner-than-her-child-shed-force-me-to-watch-her-in-public-restrooms-threatening-worse-abuse-if-i-refused-whats-really-haunting-me-is-that-at-around-age-7-8-she-unknowingly-became-my-sexual-awakening-through-these-bathroom-related-incidents-and-i-developed-fetishes-that-i-still-have-as-an-adult-while-ive-made-peace-with-my-sexuality-im-horrified-realizing-she-shaped-it-through-abuse-she-denies-everything-now-claiming-i-was-just-coddled-my-therapist-validates-that-this-was-sexual-abuse-and-assault-but-i-struggle-with-the-ambiguity-since-it-wasnt-penetrative-rape-am-i-misinterpreting-things-because-of-how-it-affected-my-sexuality-i-just-want-to-be-able-to-name-what-happened-to-me-but-the-lack-of-clarity-makes-it-so-hard-382?country=uy)[\[Image: Venezuela\]Venezuela](/es/answer/i-need-help-processing-my-childhood-trauma-i-have-been-harmed-by-many-people-but-my-mother-specifically-maintained-deeply-inappropriate-boundaries-with-me-she-would-force-physical-intimacy-during-bathroom-hygiene-routines-make-sexual-comments-about-my-body-share-explicit-details-about-her-relationships-and-treated-me-more-like-a-partner-than-her-child-shed-force-me-to-watch-her-in-public-restrooms-threatening-worse-abuse-if-i-refused-whats-really-haunting-me-is-that-at-around-age-7-8-she-unknowingly-became-my-sexual-awakening-through-these-bathroom-related-incidents-and-i-developed-fetishes-that-i-still-have-as-an-adult-while-ive-made-peace-with-my-sexuality-im-horrified-realizing-she-shaped-it-through-abuse-she-denies-everything-now-claiming-i-was-just-coddled-my-therapist-validates-that-this-was-sexual-abuse-and-assault-but-i-struggle-with-the-ambiguity-since-it-wasnt-penetrative-rape-am-i-misinterpreting-things-because-of-how-it-affected-my-sexuality-i-just-want-to-be-able-to-name-what-happened-to-me-but-the-lack-of-clarity-makes-it-so-hard-382?country=ve)

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Encuentra un lugar cómodo para sentarte. Cierra los ojos suavemente y respira profundamente un par de veces: inhala por la nariz (cuenta hasta 3), exhala por la boca (cuenta hasta 3). Ahora abre los ojos y mira a tu alrededor. Nombra lo siguiente en voz alta:

5 – cosas que puedes ver (puedes mirar dentro de la habitación y por la ventana)

4 – cosas que puedes sentir (¿qué hay frente a ti que puedas tocar?)

3 – cosas que puedes oír

2 – cosas que puedes oler

1 – cosa que te gusta de ti mismo.

Respira hondo para terminar.

Desde donde estás sentado, busca objetos con textura o que sean bonitos o interesantes.

Sostén un objeto en la mano y concéntrate completamente en él. Observa dónde caen las sombras en algunas partes o quizás dónde se forman formas dentro del objeto. Siente lo pesado o ligero que es en la mano y cómo se siente la textura de la superficie bajo los dedos (esto también se puede hacer con una mascota, si tienes una).

Respira hondo para terminar.

Hazte las siguientes preguntas y respóndelas en voz alta:

1\. ¿Dónde estoy?

2\. ¿Qué día de la semana es hoy?

3\. ¿Qué fecha es hoy?

4\. ¿En qué mes estamos?

5\. ¿En qué año estamos?

6\. ¿Cuántos años tengo?

7\. ¿En qué estación estamos?

Respira hondo para terminar.

Coloca la palma de la mano derecha sobre el hombro izquierdo. Coloca la palma de la mano izquierda sobre el hombro derecho. Elige una frase que te fortalezca. Por ejemplo: "Soy poderoso". Di la oración en voz alta primero y da una palmadita con la mano derecha en el hombro izquierdo, luego con la mano izquierda en el hombro derecho.

Alterna las palmaditas. Da diez palmaditas en total, cinco de cada lado, repitiendo cada vez las oraciones en voz alta.

Respira hondo para terminar.

Cruza los brazos frente a ti y llévalos hacia el pecho. Con la mano derecha, sujeta el brazo izquierdo. Con la mano izquierda, sujeta el brazo derecho. Aprieta suavemente y lleva los brazos hacia adentro. Mantén la presión un rato, buscando la intensidad adecuada para ti en ese momento. Mantén la tensión y suelta. Luego, vuelve a apretar un rato y suelta. Mantén la presión un momento.

Respira hondo para terminar.

Pruebe otra actividad de puesta a tierra

Me siento arraigado y preparado