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Send it to us 🇬🇧 # I'm struggling with intense imposter syndrome in survivor spaces. Even though no one is actively pressuring me to share details of my abuse, I feel caught in an impossible situation - like I'm not a 'real' survivor if I keep my story private, but I'm also terrified of not being taken seriously if I do share, given the nature of my abuse. This internal conflict is constant. Sometimes I even find myself wishing someone would invalidate my experience by telling me it wasn't real abuse - which feels deeply confusing because I simultaneously struggle with fears that maybe I'm making it all up or that it 'wasn't bad enough' to count. I need help understanding why I'm experiencing these contradictory thoughts and feelings about my abuse, and how I can break free from this cycle of self-doubt. Why might I be simultaneously seeking validation and invalidation? How can I feel more secure in my own experiences and my place in survivor spaces without feeling pressured to share more than I'm comfortable with? \[Image: Dr. Laura\] Answer by **Dr. Laura** PhD Mental Health Nurse & Sexual Assault Nurse Examiner Topics:[Sharing your story with others](/en/learn/topics/sharing-your-story-with-others) Thank you for sharing your feelings so openly. It's completely understandable to experience these conflicting thoughts and emotions. Many survivors grapple with feelings of self-doubt and questioning the validity of their experiences, even when those experiences have had a significant impact on them. When we experience trauma, our brains work hard to process and make sense of what happened to us. This often creates what seems like contradictory needs - the need to be seen and validated, alongside the need to protect ourselves from potential hurt or rejection. The imposter syndrome you're feeling in survivor spaces comes from this deep place of uncertainty that trauma often creates. Your brain is trying to protect you by both seeking connection with others who understand, while simultaneously guarding against potential rejection or invalidation. The internal tug-of-war you're experiencing - feeling like an imposter whether you share or stay quiet - often stems from past experiences of invalidation or societal messages about what "counts" as abuse. When we've absorbed messages that only certain types of abuse are "real" or "serious enough," it can create a persistent sense of not belonging, regardless of what choices we make about sharing. This isn't a reflection on the legitimacy of your experiences - rather, it shows how deeply these external messages can affect our internal perception of our own truth. The desire to have someone tell you it "wasn't real abuse" might seem confusing, but it's actually a common protective mechanism that many survivors experience. If someone were to invalidate your experience, it could temporarily relieve the pressure of having to fully face and process what happened to you. It's like your mind is saying "if it wasn't that bad, then I don't have to deal with all these difficult feelings." But notice how this conflicts with your deeper knowing - the fact that you're struggling with these feelings at all indicates that your experiences had a real and significant impact on you. There's no hierarchy of suffering in trauma - your experiences and their impact on you are valid, regardless of how they compare to others'. Let me share some ways to begin breaking this cycle...Start by practicing self-compassion and validating your own experience. This might feel uncomfortable at first, but try speaking to yourself with the same kindness and understanding you would offer a friend in your situation. Remember that healing isn't linear, and your experience is unique to you. You have the absolute right to process it in whatever way feels safest. Consider exploring these feelings through journaling or other forms of private self-expression. This can help you understand the root of your thoughts without the pressure of external validation. As you write, you might notice patterns in when these feelings of impostor syndrome arise, helping you develop more self-awareness and compassion for your journey. In survivor spaces, know that your presence and participation are valuable whether or not you choose to share details of your experience. Many others in these spaces likely share similar feelings about disclosure and belonging. You might find it healing to focus on connecting through shared understanding and support rather than through sharing specific stories. You're not alone in navigating these complex feelings, and there's no rush to figure it all out at once. We appreciate you reaching out to us. Your story matters and it is yours and yours alone. Random Question 1 Upvote(s) Upvote(s) [ 0 Comment(s) Comment(s) ](/en/answer/im-struggling-with-intense-imposter-syndrome-in-survivor-spaces-even-though-no-one-is-actively-pressuring-me-to-share-details-of-my-abuse-i-feel-caught-in-an-impossible-situation-like-im-not-a-real-su#comments) ### Discard message? You have a comment in progress, are you sure you want to discard it? Cancel Discard ##### Similar community content 0 Users 0 Views 0 Reactions 0 Stories read ##### Need to take a break? 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Name the following out loud: 5 – things you can see (you can look within the room and out of the window) 4 – things you can feel (what is in front of you that you can touch?) 3 – things you can hear 2 – things you can smell 1 – thing you like about yourself. Take a deep breath to end. From where you are sitting, look around for things that have a texture or are nice or interesting to look at. Hold an object in your hand and bring your full focus to it. Look at where shadows fall on parts of it or maybe where there are shapes that form within the object. Feel how heavy or light it is in your hand and what the surface texture feels like under your fingers (This can also be done with a pet if you have one). Take a deep breath to end. Ask yourself the following questions and answer them out loud: 1\. Where am I? 2\. What day of the week is today? 3\. What is today’s date? 4\. What is the current month? 5\. What is the current year? 6\. How old am I? 7\. What season is it? Take a deep breath to end. Put your right hand palm down on your left shoulder. Put your left hand palm down on your right shoulder. Choose a sentence that will strengthen you. For example: “I am powerful.” Say the sentence out loud first and pat your right hand on your left shoulder, then your left hand on your right shoulder. Alternate the patting. Do ten pats altogether, five on each side, each time repeating your sentences aloud. Take a deep breath to end. Cross your arms in front of you and draw them towards your chest. With your right hand, hold your left upper arm. With your left hand, hold your right upper arm. Squeeze gently, and pull your arms inwards. Hold the squeeze for a little while, finding the right amount of squeeze for you in this moment. Hold the tension and release. Then squeeze for a little while again and release. Stay like that for a moment. Take a deep breath to end. Try another grounding activity I feel grounded and ready